Sports Psychology With Renowned Confidence Coach Martin Perry
What Could You Achieve With ‘Aaron Ramsey Like’ Levels Of Confidence?
He’s one of the Premier League’s stars. Arsenal’s player of the month for four times in succession three seasons ago. Arsene Wenger has described his 2013/14 form as phenomenal. For a period of time. Aaron Ramsey was the most talked about player in British football.
In October 2012, Aaron contacted me. At the time, he wasn’t matching his talent with performances. He was playing at a level or two below his natural ability. A bad injury had set back his career development. And his confidence was inevitably suffering.
I helped Aaron put a strategy in place to turn things around. To take his confidence to another level. Gradually, week by week, things started to change for the talented Welshman. The trust in his own considerable skills began to grow. It didn’t happen all at once. Rebuilding confidence takes time.
But once Aaron got that ‘I believe in myself’ feeling back in his game, there was absolutely no stopping him.Â His resurgence culminated in Aaron scoring the winner in the 2014 FA Cup Final!
So…what could you achieve with Aaron Ramsey like levels of confidence?
Is Your Fragile Confidence Being Undermined By Self-Defeating Behaviour?
It’s a bad feeling. The worst. You walk off, head bowed. You don’t want to meet anyone’s eye. The game has come and gone. And you have under-performed. Again.
Everyone keeps telling you that things will change. But when? And how? You might even feel like just giving up. Calling it a day.Â But no, you are better than that. You are determined to keep going. But things have to change.
Surely it doesn’t have to be this way? There must be an answer. There must be…
Maybe you have talent. You know it and everyone tells you so. But yet your performances don’t show it. You underperform again and again but you don’t quite know why.
It is as if you don’t quite back yourself. Are you staying in the comfort zone instead of really going for it?
You see it in those who never break through to the top level. Even though they have the same amount of raw talent as those who get to the top flight. It’s not a question of talent. It’s a question of how you think about that talent.
That belief is under the surface but it needs bringing out. Because when you believe in yourself, confidence flows and you start performing to your potential. If I can give your back your self-belief, you will feel like a winner and a champion!
But firstly let me ask you…, is your performance being undermined, by any one of these five self-defeating behaviours:
1: Your Great In Training – But Go To Pieces In Competition…
Talented British tennis player Laura Robson, thought she had to play ‘unbelievable tennis’ to beat Kaia Kanepi at Wimbledon 2013. She didn’t. And she lost. Laura let the sense of occasion impact on her thinking. She didn’t want to let people down. She let fear of failure impact upon her game.
Instead of trusting her skills and ability, Laura put herself under unmanageable pressure to beat her opponent. Does that sound familiar?
You may be great in practise. But what it comes to competition day, maybe you become inhibited. Frightened of making mistakes. Tense. Anxious. Just not feeling yourself.
Your game tightens up. You stop enjoying yourself. And yet, in the moment, you can’t put your finger on what is going wrong.Â Being great in practise, but under-performing in competition, is a familiar problem. But it’s a problem that is not difficult to resolve.
2: Do You Beat Yourself Up If Your Not Perfect?
Do you put yourself under pressure to be perfect? And then beat yourself up when youâre not? Perfectionism can eat away at self-confidence. The feeling that whatever you do isn’t good enough.
You donât have to be at 10/10 to succeed.Â Hall Of Fame golfer, and Ryder Cup legend Colin Montgomerie admitted that his perfectionist streak prevented him from winning a Major title.
He went to four Majors every season and aimed to perform a perfect 10/10. In other words, faultless golf. He thought rivals would bring their ‘A game’ to the Majors and all be at their very best. He built the tournaments up in his mind to epic proportions. And so put himself under far too much pressure to perform.
It was only in 2007 that Monty realised he could win Major tournaments by playing at 8/10. Padraig Harrington won his first Major that year. He did not play perfectly at Carnoustie â he simply managed his game better than his rivals. And used sports psychology to superb effect!
What does operating at 8/10 mean?
It means being able to consistently do the simple things well. To not try to be perfect. And, this simple strategy is guaranteed to build up your confidence.
Would you like to work in a way that is free of stress and delivers results? Where you donât have to be perfect. How much of a relief would that be?Â What if you were shown that with Confidence Coaching, you could deliver results at 8/10. And still be successful!
Important Note: Colin failed to make the cut at a tournament in India in spring 2013. An urgent call to me followed, in order to get some much needed confidence in his game. Since then Colin has gone to win his first event in six years, with a barn-storming success at The Senior Masters at Woburn.
3: Do You Play With The Fear Of Making A Mistake?
Do you have a robust process that allows you to understand why you have made a mistake, and use that to your advantage? Or do you beat yourself up when you make a mistake, and then make more mistakes because you have lost your focus?
What if Confidence Coaching showed you how to play or compete without any fear of making a mistake. What would this be like for you?
Note:Â A few seasons ago, Leicester Tigers contacted me regarding promising young player Billy Twelvetrees. The Tigers management team felt that Billy wasn’t playing to his potential, and was worried about making mistakes.
I devised a strategy for Billy to help him play with total trust and confidence in his ability. Shortly after, he won the man of the match award for a faultless performance at Welford Rd against Harlequins, and since then has gone on to play for The British Lions and England.
4: Do You Experience Fear Of Failure or Fear Of Success?Â
Have you ever been in a situation where you have the chance to score a goal? Or make a birdie at golf? But somehow you didn’t. You know you had the ability. But you were scared. In case you lost. Or in case you failed to meet expectations.
And that fear caused you to tighten. To choke. Your palms sweat. You see it all the time in penalty shoot-outs, where an experienced player hits a very tame penalty at the keeper or blazes wildly over the bar.
It’s not a good feeling when this happens, is it? You rue those missed opportunities for days and weeks afterwards. You could have won. But you didn’t.
What if you were shown how to overcome fear of failure and grasp the golden opportunities when they come your way? What if you could prepare for those moments?Â Would that make a difference to your game?
Note: When Charlie Mulgrew arrived at Glasgow Celtic from Aberdeen, he felt the weight and pressure that comes with being at a top club. Pressure that can inhibit performance, and lead to self-doubt.
In only a 60 minute phone call, I was able to help Charlie devise a strategy to help handle the weight of expectation. A strategy that was so successful, Charlie went on to become Scottish Player Of The Year in 2011-12.
5: Have You Lost Your Confidence…But Are Not Sure Why Or How?
Sometimes you can be performing with good levels of confidence. Everything seems ok. And then it can all disappear. You don’t know where it’s gone. And you certainly don’t know how to get it back.Â It could be:
- A heavy fall in show-jumping, trampolining, gymnastics or speedway.
- A negative home crowd who are getting on your back in football.
- A new coach was has come in and doesn’t know how to get the best out of you, in maybe athletics, rugby or cricket.
- Perhaps you have hit a poor run caused by tiredness or injuries, and are trying too hard to get your form back.
Over the years I have helped hundreds of people, from the age of 8 upwards, in all sports, quickly re-discover their lost confidence. I know exactly why people lose confidence. And equally important, know how to help them get it back. And quickly!
Note: In 2010, I got a phone call from Bryony Page. Bryony was a talented young trampolinist who was suffering from lost move syndrome, as a result of a fall. Working intensively with Bryony, I helped her regain her lost confidence. Such was the fullness of Bryony’s recovery, that in 2013 she won a gold medal in the World Cup and is currently British Ladies Champion!
Are You Ready To Take The Next Steps…
When you lose your confidence, it can be very frustrating and un-nerving. Your livelihood may depend on it. You know there’s a recurring problem. But you don’t know how to fix it.
Others may say things like, ‘Keep going’, or ‘ Things will turn for you’. But when will they turn? And why will they turn? The harder you try, the worse it seems to get. Is that how it is for you?
The reason that other people’s ‘enthusiasm’ doesn’t solve the problem, is that there is probably nothing wrong with your attitude. The issue lies in your confidence.
And coaches and friends aren’t always trained, to help you rebuild lost confidence.
It’s simply too subtle a problem. When you lose your confidence, it causes anxiety and tension. It builds self-doubt. It creates a feeling of uncertainty. You wonder if you will ever get your confidence back.
I Want You To Breakthrough…Â
Here’s what you will get, if you hire me as your Confidence Coach. I tell it like it is. From our first conversation I will pinpoint the reasons why you have lost your confidence. Then, give you a very clear strategy to regain it.
You will very quickly start to feel the surge of confidence and hope return.
My agenda is simple. I want you to breakthrough and succeed. You will no longer feel alone, with low confidence.
Remember – you could wait and hope that by magic, your confidence returns. But experience tells me that rarely happens. There is a reason why you have lost your confidence. I am here to help you to return to your confident best.
Here’s How To Recover Lost Confidence…
So yes – My confidence coaching will help you get your confidence back. You may have thought of calling someone like me before. But maybe you weren’t sure what was involved. Or even if it would work?
Never mind what other people would say, if they found out you had been seeing a Confidence Coach! (Don’t worry – everything we do, will take place in the strictest confidence. I do not talk to the press or radio, about the work I do with my clients).
If you have never experienced the power of confidence coaching before, then I would like to offer you the chance of working with me.
The first step is to arrange an initial phone call. In this call, I will show you how to take your game to another level.
Here’s The Next Step…
So – here’sÂ the chanceÂ to getÂ your game moving forward immediately.
Option 1: CALL ME ON – (UK Callers): 077897 56425Â
(Outside UK) : +44 77897 56425
Option 2:Â Or fill in the form below, then send it to me using the ‘Start Coaching’ button at the end of the form. You will then receive an invitation from me, via email or phone, to arrange a time to speak.